Wayne has just come out of a playroom, and has barely bothered to put his clothes back on — his flies low, shirt open, and tie hung nonchalantly around his neck. She is black, as is her husband, in a scene that is known to be predominantly white. You know, a lot of these women are not satisfied by their husbands, who want them to do all the work. But a risk of being fetishised is a hazard of the hobby. Sex is, in some ways, a very tangible expression of the deeper currents of prejudice in this country. Both men are surprisingly happy to answer my increasingly probing questions.
Ivy. Age: 25.
It was the easiest way of manipulating our actual names without revealing the fact that we are both black.
Melanie. Age: 22.
'As a black woman I'm always fetishised': racism in the bedroom
African men had enormous penises, these accounts suggested. If there is a stereotype of your average British swinger, Sarah is not it. Why are black men willing to embrace the myths of hypersexuality and abnormally large endowment? Both men are surprisingly happy to answer my increasingly probing questions. They want to feel a strong man inside them, dominating them. Another man is kneeling next to him, waiting his turn. But then sex and relationships are one of the last remaining bastions of unreconstructed racial prejudice.